Q: 5 Things Parents Shouldn't Say to Their Kids

YesBoss
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http://shine.yahoo.com/team-mom/5-things-parents-shouldnt-kids-171300904.html
YesBoss posted May 03, 2012
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ArtemisDeals
Good one. I probably would of used say your sorry for sure. Now I know. Thanks for the read :)
ArtemisDeals (rep: 7.16k) posted May 03, 2012
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nthsll
Good article, but there are some things I would add caveats to or disagree with. Most blatantly the not making a child say they are sorry. Appologize for your child for his/her ataking a toy away from another kid? I don't think so. Give it back to the original child, explain why it was wrong and make them appologize.
nthsll (rep: 12.4k) posted May 03, 2012
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arsiel
@nthsll, I don't think they're trying to say that teaching your child to apologize is wrong - they need to know why they're apologizing just like you're saying.
Of course I'm not a parent, but I really wish my parents put me in the habit of apologizing and also apologizing to me when they were wrong. Also, thank you's and please. I don't know if it was because of the culture or language barrier, but I feel like I missed something. Please and thank you's have been second nature to me ever since I made myself develop this habit. Still, apologizing is one of the most difficult things for me especially if I know the discussion got heated and I was wrong. So odd to say.
arsiel (rep: 13k) posted May 03, 2012
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nthsll
No, the weren't saying that teaching them that it is wrong to apologize, just that modeling the behavior by doing so for them is better than forcing your child to do it on his or her own. Admitting wrong is tough, but it is something that has to be learned and too often the lesson that should be learned is completely lost in modeling.

I know what your saying about the please and thank you's. Those are completely lost on some people. Yes and no ma'am and sir are too.
nthsll (rep: 12.4k) posted May 03, 2012
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arsiel
I only really hear "sir" from the ROTC members. I personally would never want to be addressed as "ma'am" - maybe "miss." Ha.

I guess, in a way then, not being taught to apologize has bettered me. It teaches me not to throw it around meaninglessly. There was a time when my dad apologized to me when I was 18. I never heard him apologize to anyone aside from customers before that so I got choked up. Still get choked up thinking about it.
It's a weird way how parents influence their kids even when kids are in their rebellious phase.
arsiel (rep: 13k) posted May 03, 2012
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