Q: How bad is it to break up with your gf a week before Valentine's day?

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So I didnt want to post this on facebook since everyone actually knows who I am - drama drama.

Anyways, how bad is it to break up with a girl right before Valentine's?

A couple more pieces of details:

1. We are on the verge of breaking up for a while - she should be expecting it.
2. I don't want to give her false hope
3. I actually already bought a gift for her...so it's not to avoid that.

Work is hitting close to 90 hours a week these days and I really want to spend my free time alone or with friends, not with her all the time. My life has literally been work, gf, sleep for the past few weeks, not necessarily in that order.

I know it is super douchy to break up right before Valentine's but honestly, I really don't want to take her somewhere super nice like usual and give her false hope. It's bad karma but I think it is for the best. Does that make sense at all to you girls out there or am I just being a complete jerk independent of the details?

kffight3r (rep: 429) posted Feb 06, 2012

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12 Answers

If your going to break up with her anyway I think its best to do it before valentines day, otherwise she is going to be like "why did he wait till after valentines day and give me a gift", etc. I know its tough, but you should do it so as to not string her along, she will thank you for that.

krmills1 (rep: 5.79k) posted Feb 06, 2012

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If you are not "feeling it" from her, I say tell her the truth. Leading her on would only hurt her more down the road. Good luck.

akaricke (rep: 139k) posted Feb 06, 2012

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My advise is to not put on a facade. Let her know you are ready to move on A.S.A.P. It sounds like you've been feeling this way for a while, and although your timing isn't great, she needs to know. GOOD LUCK!

kimeeb (rep: 28.8k) posted Feb 06, 2012

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If you would rather spend time with friends or alone than with her that means you probably aren't in love with her and that's ok. I think you are doing the right thing by breaking up and the sooner, the better. Maybe she'll even have a chance to get another date for Valentine's Day. It's not fair to her or you to stay together but, my goodness, cut down on the work hours you poor thing. I hope you are able to make some time for yourself.

VirginiaPeanuts (rep: 6.19k) posted Feb 06, 2012

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Sounds like the relationship was headed for the dumps anyway - as much as "I" would hate to be your GF - unless she is Totally Clueless - she should be expecting it... Get it over with so that you both can move on with your lives - just DON'T do it ON Valentine's Day! ;)

FibroMom (rep: 58.3k) posted Feb 06, 2012

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FibroMom is completely right - do NOT do it ON Valentine's Day.
As for everything else, it looks like you got the "it's okay" that you're hoping for :P Just let her down easy and talk it out with her. If it's been a long time coming, it should go smoothly. Best of luck!

arsiel (rep: 6.43k) posted Feb 06, 2012

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breaking up with someone is like firing someone. you dont want to do it, but it has to get done.
best of luck.

gangstabarbie (rep: 6.25k) posted Feb 06, 2012

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My oldest daughter's birthday is tomorrow...and a few years ago, she had a boy friend break up because he didn't want to spend money on two events...asshole.

encorez (rep: 5.99k) posted Feb 06, 2012

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I agree with everyone here: break up sooner than later. It's really bad form to do it within a few days of Valentine's day, even if it is a bogus holiday (sorry if you "love" this holiday, pun intended).

@encorez: Sorry, but I find it pretty funny how much of a pathetic chump your daughter's ex-boyfriend is for doing that. At least she knew it wasn't meant to be.

toast (rep: 5.51k) posted Feb 06, 2012

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thanks guys! Had a huge fight last night but we broke it off... it was mostly her yelling at me... we are really just not on the same wavelength. Being single is so nice and free... I feel like I can breath again.

kffight3r (rep: 429) posted Feb 09, 2012

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You did what you shuld do.From your wring , we can tell you don't like her and just want to be alone.Valentines's Day is not so important.The most important thing is what you want.

BJ2010520 (rep: 22) posted Feb 10, 2012

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