Q: Moving to a place where you know no one?

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I'm currently job hunting and have pretty much been applying to places locally and all over the country hoping to get that nice shotgun effect :P. I've gotten one or two nibbles in a couple of cities in other states (which I now probably completely jinxed, but whatever).

While I want to move to a different city and kind of start anew, I also don't want to. Yes, I'm extremely indecisive. Reasons against it are the usual: failure, not knowing anyone, having to start over again, blah, and blah. But yet, I kind of want that, in an adventurous, possibly masochistic way. I've traveled alone and went to college away from home before, but that seems like small fries compared to actually moving to a place on your own to work.

Anyways, the question for you lovely dealsplussers: Anyone ever move to a completely new city and not know anyone there? What's it like? From your decision to leave, to packing, to moving, to arriving, to living.

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toast (rep: 5.54k) posted May 30, 2012

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I think it is a great experience. I moved many many times my life and not just to different cities but to different countries too. I speak 4 languages fluently and I have friends all over the place. It is intriguing to step out of your comfort zone and meet new people, learn something new at each new place. I think the majority of Americans live a mundane and repetitive life and it does not have to be that way. I think through a discovery of a new city, you will also discover yourself with your new friends. So I vote yes to your move.

kffight3r (rep: 708) posted May 30, 2012

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i moved from new york to florida 9 years ago, it was hard at the beginning but then you get to know people and start making new friends i will suggest go visit the place where you planing to move maybe get to know people around make friends.

rd995 (rep: 24.4k) posted May 30, 2012

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My brother moved away to California from NY and now he has his own house. One advice he gave me if you are going to move to start a new life. "you have to have that mind set that failure is not an option. Success is the only way." so meditate have a clear mindset and just do it. Don't let fear hold you back.

gangstabarbie (rep: 8.8k) posted May 31, 2012

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Sort of. I moved from Texas to Delaware when I was in the Air Force. I was married at the time so I knew my wife, but nobody else. I think were I to have been single living on base it would have been easier, but with a wife among singles it took some time. Still...I think the liklihood of getting to know someone when you're in the military is easier than on the civilian side.

I say that because moving home was harder than moving away. I learned that you can come home...but home isn't what you remembered it to be.

nthsll (rep: 12.3k) posted May 31, 2012

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Alot of it depends how friendly you are. Certain people could meet people and make friends anywhere. It's more difficult for other people.

bbattag (rep: 6.1k) posted May 31, 2012

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Great advice everyone. Thanks.

I particularly agree with kffight3r. Most of us do tend to live mundane lives unfortunately. I like to think that I would be dishing out the exact same advice once I actually get the courage to leave this bubble and just do it, as gangstabarbie suggests.

Also, I think I'm a pretty friendly guy. Introverted, but friendly and agreeable. (toot toot!--the sound of my own horn being tooted) Of course, being completely alone will lead to desperation for human interaction, so it's likely that it will temporarily break me out of my shell. Then I'll clam right back up again when I've established a social circle haha.

toast (rep: 5.54k) posted May 31, 2012

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In 2002, I was tired of living where I was and put up a map of the US on the wall. Closed my eyes, threw a dart and it landed on Kentucky. Since I'd committed to choosing my new location at random, I went online and started researching the state and big cities and chose one I thought was suitable. I rented my apartment online sight unseen, set up my utilities without being there, sold most all my stuff and packed the rest and moved.

It's not for everyone! ... but you'll make it. It takes time to acclimate to a new place, but working helps you make contacts, as can where you live. I've moved all over the country and have been overseas several times. Each time it's exhilarating, but scary. Have faith!

munkin2u (rep: 1.25k) posted Jun 01, 2012

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